Couples Counselling

We form relationships to complete something uncompleted, and they are therefore a process of growth..." - Liz Greene
Relationships provide us with the greatest opportunities to see ourselves as we are and to make deep and profound internal changes.

When couples are having difficulties, they often become locked in negative interaction cycles. My approach in working with couples utilizes
​Emotionally Focused Therapy. 

​The strategies in this approach can help you and your partner shift from negative to positive patterns of interaction, and discover what you each can understand and share to heal long held hurts.​
Couples come to see me for many reasons, including: 
  • Learning new and better ways to communicate with each other 
  • Figuring out "is this the right relationship for me/us?" or "is this as good as it gets?"
  • Exploring relationship issues such as frustration, lack of support, feeling let down, power struggles, etc. 
  • Getting help with parenting problems
  • Discussing control and/or anger issues and how they affect the relationship
  • Looking at betrayals or other relationship breaches in order to understand what happened and to begin a healing process 
  • Exploring intimacy issues (sexual, emotional, and relational)
  • Looking at learned beliefs and patterns from one's family of origin and how they are impacting the current relationship 
Emotions, needs, and long held experiences form the basis for exploration. Change occurs through reflection,  shared  awareness, regulation of arousal, and transformation of  emotions. These changes take place within a container of empathy, respect, and caring for self and other. 

For more information on Emotionally Focused Therapy see www.iceeft.com