Divorce Coaching
While divorce ends a marriage, it does not end a family.
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If you are going through a separation or divorce, you may be finding that the stresses of separation and divorce can take a toll on both you and your entire family.
Since 2001, I have worked as a Separation and Divorce Coach. Having a coach can be extremely beneficial during the process of divorce. My goal is to help you through a time that can be confusing, stressful, and painful - to provide compassionate support and as well as skills to help you move forward in a healthy and effective way. |
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In coaching sessions you will be part of a process that:
Information on family law in BC, options, and resources: BC Family Justice
Information on legal services, workshops, and resources in Victoria: Families in Transition
- Guides you through a difficult time by providing understanding and focus in dealing with communication and co-parenting
- Assists in addressing emotional issues that block resolution of problems for a faster, more cost effective, and more satisfying outcome
- Helps you improve your communication skills and empower yourself to work creatively with your partner for a positive post-divorce family environment
- Provides direction, guidance and strategies so you can address the needs and concerns of your children
Information on family law in BC, options, and resources: BC Family Justice
Information on legal services, workshops, and resources in Victoria: Families in Transition
Co-Parenting
During the separation process, parents are moving from a marriage to a co-parenting business partnership. Coaching can be helpful in developing a co-parenting plan. Creating a co-parenting plan that works is an important tool for ensuring the health and well being of your children. The plan details how the parents will handle activities of daily living and caring for their children.
We know that children benefit most when parents get along. A workable agreement that everyone can rely on to divide responsibilities can actually reduce stress between family members. Because the parenting plan is a living document that evolves with the changes of your growing children, it is usually revisited regularly to make sure it meets your family's needs.
Successful co-parenting can be achieved. Research shows that children grow and thrive when their parents maintain and model a positive relationship, working together in a supportive parenting alliance. Research also suggests that the following tips can be useful in developing a positive parenting alliance...
User friendly guide for helping children and teens deal with a family break up: Families Change
During the separation process, parents are moving from a marriage to a co-parenting business partnership. Coaching can be helpful in developing a co-parenting plan. Creating a co-parenting plan that works is an important tool for ensuring the health and well being of your children. The plan details how the parents will handle activities of daily living and caring for their children.
We know that children benefit most when parents get along. A workable agreement that everyone can rely on to divide responsibilities can actually reduce stress between family members. Because the parenting plan is a living document that evolves with the changes of your growing children, it is usually revisited regularly to make sure it meets your family's needs.
Successful co-parenting can be achieved. Research shows that children grow and thrive when their parents maintain and model a positive relationship, working together in a supportive parenting alliance. Research also suggests that the following tips can be useful in developing a positive parenting alliance...
- How you feel about your co-parent is less important than how you act toward her or him. Putting aside your negative feelings during interactions is definitely in the best interest of your children.
- Respect your own need for privacy and the other parent’s need for privacy too. The only information that needs to be shared between co-parents is that pertaining to your children.
- Each parents’ time with your children is sacred. Don’t make or change plans for the time your child is scheduled to spend with their other parent. Honor the pre-arranged schedule.
- Each parent has the right to develop his or her own parenting style. As long as no harm is being done, let your co-parent relate to your children in her or his own way.
- Acknowledge what your co-parent has to offer your child(ren). Remember the qualities that first attracted you. Those qualities still exist and are available to your children.
- Avoid putting children in the middle of the relationship with your co-parent.
- Expect to feel awkward and uncomfortable about this new way of relating. Keep affirming your commitment to the new co-parenting partnership and to your children.
User friendly guide for helping children and teens deal with a family break up: Families Change